He Said/She Said: Should You Stay With Someone Who Isn't "The One"?
Vaughn Varney
Issue date: 4/1/09 Section: Editorial & Opinion
Before initiating a break-up, a person should take into consideration the reasons they may want to continue the relationship. Even if their significant other isn't "the one," they shouldn't be so quick to give up.
Relationships may not always mean marriage. Often, they consist of enjoyable moments between two people. Never giving the relationship a chance because the person isn't your dream suitor seems ludicrous. Wright College student Jason Dones said, "If the only problem in the relationship is you can't see them as the one, then there's really no reason to break up." He added, "As long as the other person doesn't think they are the one for you, then no harm no foul."
In Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen's article, "Why Relationships End," she lists the top ten reasons relationships end including: lying, power imbalance, stereotypes and self-esteem issues, among others. Everyone faces these issues not just in relationships but in everyday life and should be easily surmountable by anyone, dating or otherwise. If couples can overcome these difficulties, they can last through anything. Wright student Danielle Perez said, "If you're happy with someone then just go with it. Regardless of what you think, you never know what's going to happen."
In Kelly Purden's article, "The Cold Facts About Dating," Purden explains how those in any kind of relationship remain better off than those searching. She writes, "One of the dating relationship statistics that have already been scientifically confirmed is that those people who are in a healthy relationship are a lot better as far as physical health is concerned, compared to those who are not dating or not in a relationship." Purden added that 9 out of 10 people agreed that it is healthier to be in a dynamic and faithful relationship than alone.
Why standby and pass on all the good experiences because you're looking for that perfect match? In reality, anybody could be "the one," but it's up to you to find out if there's a future with the person.
Relationships may not always mean marriage. Often, they consist of enjoyable moments between two people. Never giving the relationship a chance because the person isn't your dream suitor seems ludicrous. Wright College student Jason Dones said, "If the only problem in the relationship is you can't see them as the one, then there's really no reason to break up." He added, "As long as the other person doesn't think they are the one for you, then no harm no foul."
In Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen's article, "Why Relationships End," she lists the top ten reasons relationships end including: lying, power imbalance, stereotypes and self-esteem issues, among others. Everyone faces these issues not just in relationships but in everyday life and should be easily surmountable by anyone, dating or otherwise. If couples can overcome these difficulties, they can last through anything. Wright student Danielle Perez said, "If you're happy with someone then just go with it. Regardless of what you think, you never know what's going to happen."
In Kelly Purden's article, "The Cold Facts About Dating," Purden explains how those in any kind of relationship remain better off than those searching. She writes, "One of the dating relationship statistics that have already been scientifically confirmed is that those people who are in a healthy relationship are a lot better as far as physical health is concerned, compared to those who are not dating or not in a relationship." Purden added that 9 out of 10 people agreed that it is healthier to be in a dynamic and faithful relationship than alone.
Why standby and pass on all the good experiences because you're looking for that perfect match? In reality, anybody could be "the one," but it's up to you to find out if there's a future with the person.
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