He Said/She Said: Do Long-Distance Relationships Work?
He Said
Samson Felshman
Issue date: 5/1/09 Section: Editorial & Opinion
Long-distance relationships never work. They have the same problems that a normal relationship does, but possess even more ways to screw up. Long-distance relationships run into numerous problems that normal relationships don't have to deal with and are a bad idea in general.
When two people are in a long-distance relationship, it is extremely hard for them to keep in touch. "Forgive my bluntness," says Askmen.com relationship correspondent Victoria Holmes in an article entitled 'Surviving A Long-Distance Relationship', "but don't even think about going through with a long-distance relationship unless you are both extremely devoted to one another, and willing to make sacrifices for the relationship. If this doesn't sound like you, then you should cut your losses now, and avoid a potentially heart-wrenching situation in the future." Unless your relationship is picture-perfect, long-distance relationships result in heartbreak.
Long-distance relationships widen the gap between a couple both physically and emotionally, according to Louisiana State University's college newspaper, The Daily Reveille's relationship columnist Stephen Phillips. "According to just about every related study or personal account, it probably won't work. The distance from each other usually turns into emotional disconnection, trust issues quickly arise, and both people decide it's just not worth it," Philips said. 'Emotional disconnection' ruins relationships: when a relationship is causing more problems than it's solving, it either ends or continues as a toxic relationship. Phillips continues: "Often, people end up being unfaithful to their partners in a vulnerable moment of loneliness. Couples know this, and they probably know someone who went through the same thing, so trust becomes an obstacle within the first couple of months." In addition to lacking the comfort of a close-by significant other, couples who are trying to have a long-distance relationship also start to doubt each other's fidelity, destroying the trust they place in each other.
Every long-distance relationship is destined to either end or become a real relationship for the simple reason that people need to be together - to enjoy each other and do the things that cement a relationship as an actual honest-to-goodness relationship. Wright student Luis Diaz's long-distance relationship went sour after three years - years he considers wasted time. "Sometimes I had an opportunity to go out with someone else, but I didn't because of my girlfriend...but it didn't work out. We mainly broke up because of the long distance. She was always complaining that we didn't talk to each other." Three long years and nothing to show for it: Long-distance relationships simply are not worth the hassle.
When two people are in a long-distance relationship, it is extremely hard for them to keep in touch. "Forgive my bluntness," says Askmen.com relationship correspondent Victoria Holmes in an article entitled 'Surviving A Long-Distance Relationship', "but don't even think about going through with a long-distance relationship unless you are both extremely devoted to one another, and willing to make sacrifices for the relationship. If this doesn't sound like you, then you should cut your losses now, and avoid a potentially heart-wrenching situation in the future." Unless your relationship is picture-perfect, long-distance relationships result in heartbreak.
Long-distance relationships widen the gap between a couple both physically and emotionally, according to Louisiana State University's college newspaper, The Daily Reveille's relationship columnist Stephen Phillips. "According to just about every related study or personal account, it probably won't work. The distance from each other usually turns into emotional disconnection, trust issues quickly arise, and both people decide it's just not worth it," Philips said. 'Emotional disconnection' ruins relationships: when a relationship is causing more problems than it's solving, it either ends or continues as a toxic relationship. Phillips continues: "Often, people end up being unfaithful to their partners in a vulnerable moment of loneliness. Couples know this, and they probably know someone who went through the same thing, so trust becomes an obstacle within the first couple of months." In addition to lacking the comfort of a close-by significant other, couples who are trying to have a long-distance relationship also start to doubt each other's fidelity, destroying the trust they place in each other.
Every long-distance relationship is destined to either end or become a real relationship for the simple reason that people need to be together - to enjoy each other and do the things that cement a relationship as an actual honest-to-goodness relationship. Wright student Luis Diaz's long-distance relationship went sour after three years - years he considers wasted time. "Sometimes I had an opportunity to go out with someone else, but I didn't because of my girlfriend...but it didn't work out. We mainly broke up because of the long distance. She was always complaining that we didn't talk to each other." Three long years and nothing to show for it: Long-distance relationships simply are not worth the hassle.
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